She said it first: "Why can't he just see me the way you do?"

Let’s freeze the scenario. You are not there yet. You are starting to have feelings. Your friend’s girlfriend is giving you signals. The potential bomb is ticking. Here is the only honorable playbook.

I know how this sounds. I know the judgment you’re already passing. I would have passed it too, six months ago. But life isn't a sitcom with a laugh track covering the awkward moments. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet room, two people looking at each other, realizing the person they’re both supposed to love isn’t the right one.

Clarity is key. Avoid ambiguity by asking her to be your girlfriend in a clear, face-to-face setting.