The push for gender-neutral pronouns (they/them/ze) and inclusive language originated within trans and non-binary circles and has since permeated mainstream corporate and social environments.
The crucial distinction lies in sexuality versus gender identity. Gay culture historically revolves around same-sex attraction; trans culture revolves around self-identity and bodily autonomy. However, the overlap is massive. Many transgender individuals identify as gay or bisexual post-transition. Furthermore, the historical rejection of heteronormativity is a shared experience. Both groups have been told they are "unnatural." Both groups have been forced to create chosen families. shemale+picture+list
When a gay friend or lesbian friend starts questioning "the trans agenda," ask them: Do you believe that someone can be born in the wrong body? If the answer is no, push back. Remind them that our culture was founded by people who refused to stay in the boxes they were given. However, the overlap is massive