: The visitor must greet the parents first, often performing a Salim (hand-to-forehead gesture) as a sign of deep respect.
"Kami capek sama dunia luar. Di kafe, kita harus tampil rapi, beli minum mahal, dan suaranya bising. Di rumah, aku pakai daster, Reza pake kaob, kita masak bareng, trus tidur siang. Itu lebih intim dan beneran 'kenal' satu sama lain."
There is a growing social critique of how "nosy" culture and the pressure to have "lavish weddings" can turn a simple ngapel phase into an expensive and stressful competition for status. 🔄 The Cultural Shift