In Japan, the traditional Bapak (Otōsan) is defined by . Emerging from the post-war economic miracle, the ideal Japanese father is stoic, hard-working, and emotionally reserved. He leaves home at 6 AM, returns after 11 PM (often drunk), and provides financially, but delegates all childcare and emotional labor to the Kaa-san (mother).
Japan is atomized. A Japanese Bapak who loses his job hides in a cyber cafe to avoid shame. In Indonesia, the RT/RW (neighborhood association) knows everything. If Pak RT sees a Bapak not working, the community provides food, odd jobs, or simply nongkrong (hanging out) to stave off depression. Social shaming exists, but social is stronger than in Tokyo. japan xxx bapak vs menantu mesum full